Relationship Awareness with the SDI

Note that this workshop is now available online, and in both English and French – contact us for details!

Relationship Intelligence involves gaining an understanding of yourself and others and applying that understanding to build more meaningful, effective relationships. Only you can decide if you are getting what you want in your relationships. The test for this workshop is in real life, and you give yourself the grade.

The one day workshop includes self-assessments to help you understand motivation, behaviour and behaviour’s impact on other people. With that understanding, you will be more able to make effective choices and influence the outcomes of your interactions. As you grow in skill at making these choices and influencing these outcomes, you increase your Relationship Intelligence.

On completion of the workshop, participants will be able to:

  • Recognize the Motivational Values behind the behaviour of yourself and others
  • Determine if a behaviour is achieving your intended result
  • Use awareness of Motivational Values to communicate and behave in a manner most likely to achieve desired results for yourself and for others
  • Identify when you are in conflict
  • Identify behaviours in others that suggest they are in conflict
  • Determine whether a conflict is warranted or unwarranted
  • Describe how the positive results of conflict differ for people with different Motivational Values
  • Choose behaviours or change perceptions to prevent or resolve conflict
  • Communicate and behave during conflict in a manner that will achieve results satisfactory to both parties
  • Identify the four ways a strength can be overdone
  • Recognize when you are overdoing a strength or at risk of being perceived as overdoing a strength
  • Recognize when others are overdoing a strength or at risk of being perceived as overdoing a strength
  • Identify the strength behind an overdone strength in yourself and others
  • Turn your overdone strengths back into strengths or borrow strengths to replace your overdone strengths
  • Communicate and behave in a manner that validates the strength behind another person’s overdone strength
  • Describe how Motivational Values act as filters that cause different people to perceive situations differently


  • Introduction with Participant Interview Exercise
  • Key Relationships Exercise
  • Theory Overview
  • The 4 Premises of Relationship Awareness Theory
  • Administration of the Strength Deployment Inventory®
  • Scoring and Charting
  • Motivational Value Systems and Valued Relating Styles
  • Borrowed and Mask Relating Styles
  • Self-Worth Model
  • Portrait of Personal Strengths®
  • Introduction to Conflict
  • The Living Triangle
  • Portrait of Overdone Strengths
  • * Conflict Model
  • Arrow Dynamics
  • Learning Gains and Action Plans
  • Follow-Up Exercises


Anyone involved in team projects where working together in an optimal fashion is the ultimate goal.

Relationship Awareness® is a trademark of Personal Strengths Publishing®, publishers of the Personal Strengths Inventory®.

Please contact us for more information regarding this workshop.

  • What’s Happening

  • On The Road Again

    Jim frequently travels across Western Canada for engagements, and welcomes opportunities to meet, run a workshop, Diagnostic or Lunch and Learn session.

    Contact Jim if you would like to connect around any of the upcoming dates:

    • Blissfully at home in Vancouver, BC over the summer!
  • What People are Saying

    I am very glad to have met and learned so much from Jim’s vast project management experience. He was always willing to give guidance and advice; he’s approach was very personable and always went above and beyond to attend our team’s concerns.

    — Ricardo Melgoza